Specializing in Anxiety Treatment, Depression and Couples Therapy
Excessive worry continually. Anticipating the worse and can’t switch off that feeling.
The anxiety can bring about physical symptoms such as restlessness, tenseness in the muscles and fatigue. The person has difficulty concentrating and the mind can go blank. Sleeping becomes a challenge. The worry is frequently out of proportion to the situation. The anxiety can interfere with social or occupational life. There are different subdivisions of anxiety.
e.g., panic attacks
Feeling of intense sadness and hopelessness.
Some people talk of having no feelings or feeling inferior or guilty. Depressed people may detach themselves from others, avoiding social interactions and becoming quite isolated, both socially and emotionally. Mood swings can be part of the presentation, and suicidality. It can be episodic, with duration of two weeks or much longer. There are different sorts of depression and sometimes it may be situational, which can clear up after the situation is changed, but it can also be endogenous and heritable.
Does your marriage feel boring? Are you building resentment, grudges? Are you engaging in domestic violence even? Are you in an equal power relationship? Do you feel cherished and valued? How is your intimate life? Has passion dwindled? Are you willing to work hard at building that long-term committed relationship for which you once hoped? Relationships are built. They don’t just happen. How empathetic are you? If any of these questions apply to you, then let’s connect. We are familiar with the well-researched Gottman method. Gottman claimed he could tell whether a marriage was going to work within the first 5 minutes of meeting a couple.
In a couple relationship, can you ask yourself if you can be wrong? Can you look inside yourself and slow down and examine your motives. Can you recapitulate? Can you love the sometimes unlovable, and regulate your own emotions? Can you be respectfully assertive? Can you be super role-models of a good marriage for your children. You will be their template. Drawing on Gottman’s methods, Imago Therapy techniques, CBT, and Family Constellations, we help you step out of the rut and find your road map.
Exposure to a stressful event, resulting in corresponding mood or behaviour changes
There is a close relationship to anxiety disorders, obsessive compulsive disorder and dissociative disorders. The stressful event may cause the person to be fearful or the person may demonstrate anger and aggression in response to memories of the catastrophic event. Psychological distress and Avoidance to internal or external cues resembling aspects of the event occurs. Our practitioners are trained in Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR), a proven treatment for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). Children may demonstrate reenactment of the traumatic event in their play..
“All drugs that are taken in excess have in common direct activation of the brain reward system, which is involved in the reinforcement of behaviors and the production of memories” (DSM-5 APA 2013, p.481). Hence one’s normal activities may dwindle in favor of quick fixes for a “high.”
Clues for falling into addictions are there way before addictions emerge, and logically, a person with low levels of self -control, low levels of self-esteem, and brain reduction of inhibitory mechanisms is at risk. Addictions can include other repetitive behaviors such as shopping addiction, food addiction, gambling., exercise addiction, sex addiction. and internet addiction, or ‘cell phone, now-a-days. Underlying is the seeking of pleasure and happiness. So let’s look at why the person needs this. What is missing in his/her life? Craving is a common symptom and may be an indication of impending relapse. Usual occupational, social, or home responsibilities may fall by the wayside, as the addict maintains his/her need for dopamine.
Adolescents are a different breed. They are going through so many life changes both physically and mentally. As one may observe, these changes may start and end variably in the population and puberty can begin anywhere from 10 yrs. old to even as late as 15, and it doesn’t always terminate at legal adulthood age of 19. “The Canadian Paediatric Society believes that a definition of adolescence based solely on chronological age is unjustified and impractical. The Society favours a more functional definition based on the biopsychosocial readiness of young people to enter adulthood.”.(https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2794325/ )
Adolescence is a time of finding out who one is, and formulating character and personality, while taking on responsibility. It takes a special person to understand adolescents. That person is a receptive listener, non-judgmental, and someone who likes teens. A teen therapist needs to have flexibility, patience, good humor, and to meet the teenager where he/she is at. Adolescents want power so the relationship between an adolescent and a helper needs to be equalized. We can learn from teens if we’re prepared to respectfully listen.
Allergies are the reactions of the body’s immune system to something it thinks is dangerous, although, in actual fact, the substance could be harmless. Typically, hayfever (allergic rhinitis), caused by pollen, gives one itchiness or swelling in the mouth or throat. Proteins from some fruits and vegetables are very similar to certain pollens, e.g. birch tree pollen, so a type of cross-reactivity can occur called oral allergy syndrome (O.A.S.) Then one can get the immune response by eating an apple or celery(See : https://www.aaaai.org/conditions-and-treatments/library/allergy-library/outdoor-food-allergies-relate
To manage the symptoms, avoid eating the particular raw foods that bother you, particularly during the allergy season. One way to reduce cross-reactions with food is to bake or microwave the food because high temperatures break down the proteins responsible for OAS. Eating canned food may also limit the reaction. And, peeling the food before eating may be helpful, as the offending protein is often concentrated in the skin.
If you develop systemic reactions such as hives, vomiting or difficulty breathing, after eating fruit, or vegetables, or nuts, an emergency hospital visit may be in order, but at least find an allergist or immunologist. Throat or mouth itching from peanut, soybeans, almonds, and hazel nuts may be a manifestation of a more serious food allergy leading to anaphylaxis
Dermatitis: Inflammation of the skin, either due to direct contact with an irritating substance or to an allergic reaction. Symptoms include redness, itching, and, sometimes, blistering.
Dust mites are a common trigger for indoor allergies. They are microscopic mites that live in the fibers of pillows, mattresses, blankets and carpet. They live off of our dead skin cells. Inhalation of their droppings can cause allergic reactions such as runny nose, sneezing and nasal congestion.
How many people have heard of lichen planus, a fungus which can grow in the oral cavity? It is thought to be an autoimmune disease.
Psychosomatic factors which can worsen allergic reactions and stress can greatly increase the onset of symptoms and the intensity of them. Hypnosis is a proven tool for reducing stress and controlling the symptoms of it. A 2-year research project carried out at University of Basel, Switzerland demonstrated the power of hypnosis for allergy treatment. (http://hypnosis.personal-development.info/allergies.html)
Anger is an emotion that all humans may feel at some point. Anger turned inwards can be part of depression. We need to learn how to express our anger productively.
This writer has found that anger management within a group setting is most helpful. One can realize that others have, or are, experiencing similar issues, so one is not alone. Also, within a group there is a give and take of ideas and solutions. Members may be at different stages of anger management, with different levels of experience and they can share their knowledge with others, which is empowering. Inability to control one’s anger puts limits on what one can accomplish in all aspects of one’s life: work, sports, relationships, parenting. Exploring the etiology of one’s anger, recognizing one’s triggers, learning some tools to self-control and direct the energy of anger constructively can turn it into an asset. Dr. Val Kendall has experience in facilitating anger management groups.
First conceived by Bert Hellinger, family constellations, when explored, give us clues to some of the emotionally upsetting experiences, misunderstood problems and traumas we may be suffering. The amazing and intriguing notion is that we may be unconsciously living out the unresolved traumas of our past family generations, dating back as far as our great grandparents and beyond. This type of therapy, drawing on the science of epigenetics and neuroplasticity, goes deep. Reference: Mark Wolynn. (2016). "It didn’t start with you. How inherited trauma shapes who we are and how to end the cycle."
The mind and the body are unified, not separate. Psychological and emotional aspects can contribute to chronic pain. The brain has plasticity to learn, and to unlearn. Fear of pain can make us afraid to make certain moves, so we avoid some stretching activities that could help us. The original pain stays in our memories. Laser, hypnosis and tapping, can assist in pain relief.
A Phobia is an excessive, uncontrollable fear of a particular thing or situation, e.g., spiders (arachnophobia) snakes, injection needles (in this case hemophobia, or the fear of blood can trigger certain hormones that lead to fainting), certain foods, small, confined spaces (claustrophobia), fear of leaving the house or being in a crowd (agoraphobia).
In phobias, the intensity of a fear of a phobia common to several people, may vary between them. These intense fears can lead to increased heartrate, sweating and nausea, and even a panic attack. Dentophobia, leading to untreated dental treatment can lead to a host of health problems. Though fear of public speaking is common, glossophobia is far worse, with a fear of speaking even in smaller, intimate settings. This sharply limits career aspirations. Gephrophobia is fear of bridges, which limits free travel. Ornithophobia, aquaphobia, acrophobia, pyrophobia, nomophobia (a recent acquisition, even sleeping or showering with the gadget, since the invention of the mobile phone), cyberphobia (in severe cases, avoidance may be due to fear of surveillance), cynophobia or ailurophobia, may be due to past bites from dogs or cats, which leaves the recipient to assume incorrectly, that all dogs or cats are violent. Nyctophobia (fear of the dark) is common in small children but for some it is maintained into adulthood: the real fear, is actually fear of the unknown in the darkness. A small night light can help but anything too bright will interfere with sleep, and if one must have a night light, make it a red bulb.
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Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) and hypnosis have been able to help with some of these conditions. Check out Hypnosis.com
Physical Health Problems
A psychoeducational assessment is a comprehensive gathering of information regarding a person’s unique and specific learning abilities. Assessment is completed in a number of ways: individual interview, parental input, school input, observations, standardized tests. It is finalized in a comprehensive report outlining a person’s strengths and weaknesses and providing recommendations. This is shared in a final interview with parents, or, in the case of an adult assessment, with the client. Results can assist teachers in planning an Individual Programme Plan (IPP) This whole process can take several hours.
Does your child seem smart but is having difficulties at school, and in the playground? Does your child have friends? Does he/she seem idiosyncratic, and different from the average. Have you considered getting an accurate assessment of his/her capabilities by using a specialist to assess his/her cognitive, emotional, and academic needs? Ever wondered why you, yourself can’t seem to reach your potential? Do you know your particular learning style? Dr. Val Kendall is a former experienced teacher, having taught in two countries and locally for the CBE. Let her help you. Check your insurance coverage, as costs may go as high as $2500, or higher, depending on time duration and needs..
Self Esteem Issues
In a nutshell, sex therapy is the treatment of sexual dysfunction by a qualified, certified Sex Therapist. We can refer you to one. However, those of us here already working with couples will include problems of intimacy within their counselling process.
Issues can include Absence, Premature, or Delayed Ejaculation, Erectile Disorder; Male Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, Female Orgasmic Disorder, Female Sexual Interest/Arousal Disorder, Genito-Pelvic Pain/Penetration Disorder, Substance/Medication-Induced Sexual Dysfunction. Culture and religious affiliation can influence sexual desire or behaviour.
Gender Dysphoria refers to distress occurring when a person experiences incongruence between the experienced or expressed gender and the assigned gender. For those individuals who cannot obtain the desired alternative sexual role with the use of physical or hormonal assistance, the distress may be intensified.